Today I want to talk about creating our own reality. I'm talking about the "small r" reality, the reality that we are constantly inventing moment 

to moment. I'm speaking of the reality that we experience as humans and the reality that we share with the other humans on the planet.

Just how DO we do that any way; create our own reality? We’re all familiar with the adages and expressions that what we think 

creates what we see. "Thoughts held in mind produce after their kind.", "As a man thinketh in his heart, so he is.". We accept 

these as Truth, as immutable laws that govern the Universe. I think we have all had experiences which prove these laws to ourselves. 

But I would like to take this idea a little deeper…

Let me give an example. Let’s say the guy I get my coffee from at Starbucks is rude or snippy with me one morning. I can easily find 

acceptance in understanding that I may not know what his circumstances are. I can accept and forgive him knowing that he may 

be having a bad day and that his unpleasantness really isn't directed at me. In "forgiving him his trespass" 

I walk away unaffected. Perhaps I can even bring him up with a kind word or by engaging him in an uplifting 

conversation. With a little effort on my part we’ll soon have exchanged names (his name is Bob) and we’ll both 

be laughing and smiling by the end of our transaction.

But wait a second…..In "creating this reality" I have already lost sight of who Bob is. After all, I KNOW, with complete certainty, that 

Bob is a perfect, whole and complete expression of the Living, Loving God. Knowing this, anything of a lower nature should simply be 

sidestepped; not even given consideration for forgiveness; nothing to forgive. And yet, I have chosen to first experience Bob as rude.

The overworked question: "What would Jesus do?" is suddenly quite appropriate here. One who is perfect will see only the perfection in 

another. For one to recognize imperfection, one must possess that same imperfection.

How on earth could I know and recognize rudeness if that quality was not already present in my self? If I now apply the adage "As a man 

thinketh in his heart, so he is." in the strictest sense, then the rudeness I am ascribing to Bob is actually in me. After all, Bob is just being Bob. 

The one experiencing the rudeness is me. I must now take responsibility for my OWN misperceptions…. And suddenly, I AM my brother’s 

keeper.

So now, if I am able to completely heal myself of the disease of rudeness then Bobs rudeness disappears as well. Oh… wait… Bob never had 

any rudeness. The rudeness was mine all along.

In our next episode I’ll talk about how we can apply this on a deeper and even more healing level.

                                                                                                          With Much Love

                                                                                                           Tim

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